Smile a little more …

While it is difficult at times to smile, whether it is because of dealing with surgeries, life issues or difficult emotions, there is something warm and compassionate toward yourself when it comes to smiling.

It is something that I have a hard time doing in my life because I do have a tendency to take everything so seriously. A number of weeks ago, I had a chance to be around a couple that held a special balance between having fun and being responsible. They could laugh with their kids while also maintaining a sense of handling moments that would cause others to stress or freak out.

They laughed a lot, too.

In this facial difference world, there’s always so damned  much to be serious about. Yet I do know that parents and children alike do their best to find moments of happiness.

I’d just like to encourage all of the children, adults and parents within the cleft, craniofacial and facial difference community around the world to … hopefully … smile a little more today and every day.

Happiness is important. It’s not something to throw out the door or forget about. Not in the least. You are as just as deserving of happiness as myself. We’ve been through our tough roads and journeys. Give yourself a break and smile, feel happy and know that you are loved.

Blessings and peace,

Joe

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The Question …

I imagine many parents rustle out of bed in the mornings and check on their children, whether it is to get them ready for school or take care of a medical situation.

The strain of yesterday’s pains may have drifted out of them, but some still remain. They take a look at their child with love and compassion and ask “What can I do for you?” Not in a forceful or mean way (at least I hope not!), yet more in a way to get information.

This question can also be asked by someone who is older, say an adult, and has no significant other in his or her life.

“What can I do for you?” turns into a powerful, affirming question to ask. It is not silly nor is it vanity. This simply calls upon you asking yourself what can be done to help you today … in this moment.

A lot of times, my mystical mind races 1,000 steps ahead of where I am in the present. I start fretting and worrying about where the next dollars are coming from. Am I worthy of a loving, intimate relationship with a woman? When will the scars of life heal fully? Am I worth a million dollars?

The question for myself, and the question for yourself, will take a different form and shape. One thing I can say is this: Not asking solid questions in your life and getting clarity around what you want will definitely cause more pain than success.

In the cleft and craniofacial community, our pain lies not only on the physical realm but in the soul realm, too. The insecurities and anxieties that litter our insides are just mind-boggling. Yet they do not have to be that way. We can share our insecurities with one another. We can actually talk about what is going on inside ourselves and open up to the real possibility of healing and wholeness.

Everyone around the world in the cleft and craniofacial community is worthy of healing, love, light, forgiveness and peace. Even those people we differ with on certain social and political issues … we can, I believe, wish one another the gift of love. For some of us, it might be from many, many miles away as well. Safety first!

Every minute counts … and you are loved.

Why I do this …

It is all about the heart.

It is all about the heart.

Some people might wonder why I am so dedicated to the emotional issues surrounding the people in the international cleft and craniofacial community.

Well, the answer is pretty simple. It comes from an internal desire to raise awareness of facial differences and align myself with like-minded people and organizations.

I feel quite grateful and thankful many of you have discovered “CleftCast” and are listening to it.

Yet there is more on the way. More services and products to help you, my friends, tap into the emotional areas of your hearts and bodies in healthy ways.

Whether a child, adolescent, young adult or adult with a cleft and craniofacial anomaly, the coming days and weeks are going to give you more resources for your life.

Parents, you have not been forgotten in this area, either. You have a lot of stress and issues to deal with on your own.

I’d suggest to keep checking back here because more is on the way.

Podcasts, ebooks, downloadable PDFs, etc. These will help you in your own emotional journey.

Until then …

Every minute counts … and you are loved.

Welcome!

Hi there and welcome to Heartfelt Smiles! The purpose of the organization is to offer emotional support for the craniofacial community.

That involves children and adults, along with parents and friends, who have or are related to individuals with craniofacial issues like cleft lip, cleft palate and others.

Our goal is to establish Heartfelt Smiles communities across the United States and around the world, one city at a time.

Know that the intention behind Heartfelt Smiles is to help, empower, listen, encourage and love those who are on this journey or have walked the path.

Let us co-create a world of healing and hope among the craniofacial community.