What do you want out of life?

Before running off to the hills and really scratching your head to see if this has ANYTHING to do with the facial difference community … just breathe.

It’s important that you ask this question of yourself. What do you want out of life? This life that you and I roll along through every day was meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Hell, everyone of us in the cleft/craniofacial/facial difference community has endured a lot. Children, adults, parents, guardians … you name it. Fear, anger, joy, sadness, loss, grief, laughter and ambivalence all crop up in the emotional register of our hearts.

Yet you have a golden opportunity, no matter what your age, race, creed, color, religious or non-religious persuasion, or whatever, to totally rewrite the script of your life.

What do you want out of life? Let us sit with this question. No … I mean it. You sit with it, I’ll sit with it. We’ll come up with our own answers. Then, see if there is a little, tiny action that can be taken in that direction. More love, more peace, more prosperity, more satisfaction … it’s all for the getting.

Just ponder the question.




Smile a little more …

While it is difficult at times to smile, whether it is because of dealing with surgeries, life issues or difficult emotions, there is something warm and compassionate toward yourself when it comes to smiling.

It is something that I have a hard time doing in my life because I do have a tendency to take everything so seriously. A number of weeks ago, I had a chance to be around a couple that held a special balance between having fun and being responsible. They could laugh with their kids while also maintaining a sense of handling moments that would cause others to stress or freak out.

They laughed a lot, too.

In this facial difference world, there’s always so damned  much to be serious about. Yet I do know that parents and children alike do their best to find moments of happiness.

I’d just like to encourage all of the children, adults and parents within the cleft, craniofacial and facial difference community around the world to … hopefully … smile a little more today and every day.

Happiness is important. It’s not something to throw out the door or forget about. Not in the least. You are as just as deserving of happiness as myself. We’ve been through our tough roads and journeys. Give yourself a break and smile, feel happy and know that you are loved.

Blessings and peace,


An update … please read …

Hi friends …

Thanks for your continued support of the cleft, craniofacial and facial difference community in the United States and around the world.

It has been quite a while since I have posted anything on this blog. Life, for me, has been a myriad of ups and downs in the past few months. What I have been through has humbled me … a lot … and left me learning more life lessons along the path.

I’ve relocated back to my home state of Texas, where I am working at a job now. I’m in a gypsy-ish mode now, too, and have not landed in an actual new home or apartment as of this writing. There have been many, many people who have been most gracious to me during this time. Their support and care is not forgotten on my end at all.

As for “CleftCast,” no, I have not forgotten about it either. Through my travails, it just has not been done. My intention is to get a new podcast up this month (July 2015) and then be back in the routine of posting them on a weekly basis.

For now, that’s about it. I believe that it would behoove me to take some of my own medicine and remember that every minute does count and, like you, I am loved.

Blessings and peace,


Never give up on yourself …

There are times that everyone goes through some piece of life.

Whether it is getting another surgical procedure, seeing another doctor, having a test at school or — God forbid — dealing with a bully, we all have those times that are just too much to bear.

Yet I want to offer all of us a chance to breathe, hope and look at the other side of the picture.

It’s pretty dark right now … yet sunshine is about to break through.

Give yourself the gift of smiling today.

Every minute counts … and you are loved.



New Product: “How To Observe Your Child’s Emotions” e-book available …

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Greetings everyone!

I have some truly exciting news to share with you all.

I’ve just launched a new e-book titled “How To Observe Your Child’s Emotions.” It is available right now at Cool Cat Training, a website that’s dedicated to trainings revolving around child development and baby development issues.

This e-book will offer parents of children ranging from infancy through 3 years old six steps by which they can gauge not only their child’s emotional state but theirs, too.

This is the first of a series of e-books dedicated to this as it will follow along the lines of what I have been sharing on “CleftCast” over the past year.

At the site, you also will be seeing videos, new material, new e-books and books over time.

I’d welcome anyone to head on over to Cool Cat Training today and pick up a copy of “How To Observe Your Child’s Emotions.”

Thanks for all of your support. It truly means a lot to me.

Every minute counts … and you are loved.

Blessings and peace,